i understand why people are icked out by ships with large age gaps bc in real life u probably should be suspicious of anyone in their 50s who exclusively dates 20 year olds. but i find it hard to take fandom discourse about the concept seriously because 90% of the time ive met someone with a vested interest in an age gap ship it is NOT the younger character they care about. thats the one theyre self inserting on. they are projecting their desire for old men and i will not be the one to take that away from them.
